I Didn’t Eat Black Eyed Peas

January at last. Not to be a scrooge, but I am so glad the holidays are over. Partly because I felt like I have been soooo busy from Thanksgiving and on but also because I am so excited for this new year. A new year is a time for many people to start over and start fresh. Clear their minds and bodies; start a new exercise routine, new diet, and new habits. And like many others, I am spending the first few – very cold days – of the new year reflecting on the previous. What did I do, who did I meet, what did I not do, what did I learn, what worked for me, what didn’t work for me.

Recently, and by recently I mean the last few months, I have been studying and researching goal setting and personal growth. I have listened to umpteen webinars and read several bloggers’ opinions and teachings.  I just finished reading the ever popular book “Girl Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis. It took me way too long to finish this book and I learned a lot, but possibly the biggest thing that stood out was at the very end of the book. She quoted a quote by Maya Angelou that says:

“When you know better, you do better”.

I want to know better so I can do better and be better.

I want to learn from 2018 so that I can do better in 2019. For myself, for my friends, for my family, for my career. Below are some steps that I am taking to make 2019 my best year yet.

  1. PLAN LESS. For those that know me, you know that I am a huge planner. For everything. For the morning, for the day, for the evening, for the week, for the month, heck even for the whole year. A lot of my daily planning revolves around meals, because duh. But really – I love the organization and detail that planning requires and it helps relieve any anxiety I may have. Some people would say “you just like control”. Yes, that is true. And that is the ugly mirror that I am facing. I am learning that a lot of things are out of my control whether I like it or not. By planning less, I will learn to deal with things as they happen and learn that my plan isn’t always the right or the best plan.
  2. CHALLENGE YOURSELF. Start a new habit that is a little challenging for you. Pick something you CAN do but something that you may not always want to do. For me, this is making my bed every day. I can physically make my bed every day, but I don’t always want to. But by pushing myself to do it anyway, I will be so proud and so glad I did.
  3. LEARN SOMETHING NEW. Be purposeful and set a goal to learn at least one new thing this year. Whether that is a new language, a new hobby, something in your career that you don’t need or have to learn but choose to anyway. It can be anything.
  4. STICK TO THAT BUDGET. We all do it, we all set budgets every month or every year and follow it for a while and then fall off the tracks somewhere around March. Well, maybe not allll of us, but I know I’m guilty. I am going to stop making excuses for things that I want but don’t need. I am going to do what I don’t want to do now so that I can do whatever I want later in life. A memorable vacation with a loved one is much better than a fancy purse.
  5. GET FOCUSED. One of my favorite sayings is “actions follow focus”. What are you focused on? I plan to get really focused on the things I want to be focused on. Do more of what you want, not what you don’t want. Don’t underestimate what you can accomplish in 1 year.

Think of these as some sort of goals. But don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Set out to accomplish your goals, strive to achieve, but don’t beat your self up if you don’t hit every single one. To help, create more goals that are achievable rather than huge drastic goals that are hard to reach.

So, to summarize, I didn’t eat any black eyed peas this year. Why? Because I will determine how my year goes.


Thanks for reading!



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